Heart and Soul of the Borderline

One more try.....

You know, I've been clearly honest about borderlines and their likely beginnings being that of neglected children of narcissistic mothers.

But I haven't yet told the deepest part from the soul of the borderline.

They are suffering.  Every moment of everyday they suffer a great deal.  When they blow things out of proportion, it's because their view of daily events is distorted.

When they use terms like "always, never, and furious" it's because they really believe these are the correct words to use most.  This is how they see and feel.  If someone tells them not to do something again - The borderline hears that the person is furious with them.  They feel that someone is always furious with them - that they never are good.  This is the wounded inner child still feeling and seeing life inaccurately.

The borderline suffers with ever spinning exaggerated emotions in their mind and body.  They are in a constant state of wonder.  Should they feel this way or that?  Is this what so and so meant?  If anxious, the state is paranoia.  I knew so and so was going to do such and such to me.  I didn't see it, but I know it's true.  It has to be.

Is what she did or said meaning that she is going to abandon me?  Borderlines are preoccupied with how to keep "loved ones" from leaving or interpersonal relationships from falling away.  Yet, when one loves them too much, they are pushed away.  The classic push -pull game.  Real love is painful to the borderline who both doesn't trust and can't trust.

Still the borderline doesn't give up.  They try, and try again.  They bounce back.  They have a good heart of forgiveness and want to be and do good.  But, inevitably they erase the good with suspicion and misplaced anger.

It is a life of turmoil and uncertainty for the borderline, which is such a shame.  A person with such deep feelings but no direction for them ends up disillusioned.  They trust themselves and their own feelings about as much as they trust others.  This all has to be straightened out.

You can read that there is no cure for this condition, but some say there is.  It is a lot of work, but well worth it.  AJ Mahari from Canada says she is recovered and others can too.  Contact her online.  She's everywhere.  You can get better!!