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I found this online, but I wanted to share it.....
I'm The Adult Child of A Narcissistic Parent...What Now?
Healing from such a traumatic childhood is absolutely a daunting task. Having your own emotional needs unmet for so long may make the notion of recovery seemingly impossible. It's not. Here are some guidelines for recovery for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents:
- Begin working through the grieving process - allow yourself to grieve the parent you never had.
Acknowledge that you've never learned how to properly deal with feelings, and begin to start working through these feelings.
- Work toward loving that little child inside you in the ways your Narcissistic Parent never did.
- Stop hoping that your Narcissistic Parent will change - he or she will not change.
- Remind yourself every day that you need to take care of yourself - those needs for self-care are incredibly important.
- Remember - you matter too. A lot.
- You do not need to harm yourself or hate yourself. You're a great person, worthy of love and devotion.
Stop being afraid of your Narcissistic Parent - you are an adult, you survived hell, and you need to reclaim your life as your own. Start by erasing that fear.
- Get rid of that feeling of not fitting in or belonging. It was put there by your Narcissistic Parent and it's got to go.
- We are none of us alone - that means you, too!
- Find and connect with other Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents.
- Find a therapist who specializes in treating Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents. (I'm still looking for this ... If anyone knows of any near me in NEPA I'm all ears).
- You're probably still afraid of "getting into trouble" thanks to the way your Narcissistic Parent treated you. You're an adult now, and you don't answer to anyone but yourself.
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- Release some of that anger. Smash some plates. Scream. Hit a pillow. Anything to let the anger of being an Adult Child of Narcissistic Parent out. Better yet, learn how to stop it from being in your life. You have the choice. Get rid of it and learn to not invite it back. Start by setting boundaries. You CAN BE FREE OF ANGER
- Learn to be autonomous - start by making small decisions for yourself, and learn that you - yes YOU - are in charge of your own life.
- You are more than worthy. No matter what your Narcissistic Parent told you, you are more than worthy. You are enough.
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There are more and more of us out there that are coming out and finding help. Telling our stories helps us process what has happened and it helps others to see that they are not alone.
There isn't enough research out there on Mothers who are psychopaths. They have 4 and 6 percent statistics out there for 'people' in general worldwide who are considered to have this pathology. And the concentrations are higher among prisoners and in the corporate world, but for women who have this pathology and give birth to and 'care for' children - there needs to be more research.
The havoc they have caused to their children and so to the entire world at large is immeasurable. I can't even imagine what is in store for them when fate catches up either her or in the hereafter.
*here or in the hereafter*
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