The Golden Child - Much Like the NM

The Psychopath Mother and her Golden  Child

Oh yes, the Golden Child.  A reader asked about the Golden Child recently, and I thought this might be just the right time in the blog to finally address the subject.

These people - the Psychopath/Narcissist and her Golden Child do a great deal of damage over a lifetime.  Between them they manage to destroy the souls of countless people - usually family members.  This can be seen beyond generations in the behavior patterns of their relatives.





Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Narcissist 

•Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to explain their actions (The GC believes).
•Accuse and blame to divert attention away from themselves
•Refuse to accept the perspective of others while irrationally defending their own positions
•Withhold information in areas affecting the lives of those they are abusing - it give them the control to manipulate future events.
•Avoid acknowledging the feelings of others, yet will often bring up how their emotions are being effected (GC agrees)..
•Slight or take digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner, allowing the 
abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive (GC gets it... loves it)
•Change the subject to divert attention from themselves 
•Make others feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser.
•Threaten or hint of physical, mental or sexual abuse
•Deny anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self) 
•Show inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame)
•Try and control others to domineer and limit freedom or expression
•Forget commitments and promises.
•Deny success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a loser.
•Take advantage of vulnerabilities using shame, guilt or fear (GC sees this and makes excuses for the abuser)
•The actions and promises are out of alignment. They say one thing and do another
•Only be nice when all other options have been removed, when they feel they are trapped into a corner
•Cut someone off so they are not allowed to speak. Suppressing self-expression.
•Look to eliminate the choices of others, while gathering control for themselves
•Ask inappropriate questions or make insinuating comments to evoke emotional responses
•Humiliate others in public situations to show their superiority
•Keep pushing buttons and activating places of sensitivity (GC says it's the victim's fault)

•Pretend to understand concerns and then disregarding them
•Slander the name, reputation, associations or activities of those they can’t control

Often the Golden Child is also a Narcissist or at least having many Narcissistic traits.  The Golden Child is as entitled just as the NM, and they will use this over their siblings.  So siblings get a kind of double dose of Narcissistic abuse - that being from both the NM and the GC.  Often, they are a tag team - the GC and NM - making family members' lives miserable.